Let’s face it- during holiday seasons we get distracted with expectations. This mentality robs us from traditions and values, leaving minimal room for joy, thanks, or reflection. Though thanksgiving has a heavy backstory, traditionally families try to gather around the table and consider what they’re thankful for. This experience allows for a mindful pause on the daily hustle and bustle – and provides a sense of appreciation to fill the space. So, why would we isolate this experience to just one moment – especially when there is so much value in giving thanks? Here is a helpful guide to support ways to better connect with gratitude:
Give thanks to yourself, Give thanks to your supports, give thanks to humanity.
Give Thanks to Yourself
Why is it that receiving a compliment is so difficult? Oftentimes we reject it or downplay it, or shift focus to the individual giving the compliment, amplifying their traits rather than accepting our own. This has been a debilitating trend in our society, where accepting a compliment is seen negatively.
By rejecting our value we are sending quite a few messages out there…
1) We are not worth love and acceptance
2) Encouraging younger generations to also negate positive praise
3) Rejecting the individual presenting us with appreciation.
Consider it as if someone is giving a gift to you, and not only do you refuse to open it, but you continue to tell them how wrong they are for thinking of you and caring about you- to the point where you just throw the gift back into their lap. This is essentially what we do with compliments. I believe this cycle will continue, until we build up the ability to provide ourselves with gratitude and recognition first. A great way to recognize your own value and provide yourself with gratitude is simple! Have a stack of post-its on hand and any time you catch yourself doing something of value, write it on a post-it. Have these post-it’s displayed somewhere you see often: bathroom mirror, closet, car dashboard. By surrounding yourself with these notes of acceptance and gratitude you can improve your acceptance towards compliments, self-love, and gratitude.
Give Thanks to Your Supports
One of the easier ways to show gratitude is externally. During a season surrounded with gratitude we start to pay attention and recognize our partners’ acts of kindness, the selfless nature of our friends, maybe even the sacrifices our parents went through. These moments of recognition are so important to share, not only for the individual receiving gratitude but for you!
In this video you will see the positive impact sharing gratitude has on happiness. Take a mindful moment to consider those who have supported you this year. Meditate on the moments they have been there for you, and the value you have towards that relationship. Then gift them with a phone call or lunch date, reading them the note at some point. You will be amazed with how impactful this experience can be!
Giving Thanks to Humanity
During the height of COVID the world recognized the value in “day-to-day” workers. These are the people we run into, but unfortunately lack giving a second thought once we move to our next activity. These people would be your local grocery clerk, fast food employee, mailman, or uber driver. Though we may say the standard thank you, there are ways to intentionally extend the gratitude. Most services have surveys or ratings you can provide, leaving a lasting valuable impression on the individual who supported your daily needs!
Marvelous Minds is Connecting With a Cause
Here at Marvelous Minds, we thoroughly enjoy being a resource for you and your family! We feel grateful to be a part of your lives and feel encouraged by your trust. We have received so many different forms of gratitude throughout the years from homemade cards to thoughtful gifts. Now that the season of gratitude and gift giving is upon us, we recognize how strongly this community connects with the love language of gift giving. We appreciate the extended gratitude, while also recognizing we too can extend that gratitude. This year Marvelous Minds is connecting with a cause!
If you feel encouraged to show gratitude towards a team member here at Marvelous Minds, you can do so under the tree! When donating your item for Metropolitan Family Services you can fill out an ornament, displaying your gratitude towards your team member, while also supporting Metropolitan Family Services! We are excited for the opportunity and appreciate your kindness!
Items needed for the Holiday Shoppe drive:
- Gift Cards