How are we doing, mommas? Are we taking care of ourselves as much as we are our children, spouses, jobs, parents, closet- cleaning etc.? Don\u2019t forget, we need to put on our own oxygen masks before attending to others! There are many articles and posts out there now about healthy ways to engage in self-care, so I am just going to leave the reminder here for you. What I wanted to discuss is how are we handling our children\u2019s dysregulated behavior . Have you noticed an increase in dysregulation, either more frequent or more intense behavior? This is natural, given the circumstances we are all living in currently. First, their schedules have been disrupted. Sleep and wake times are less consistent, the structure of the school day no longer provides the scaffolding of time, responsibilities, and expectations. They miss their friends and teachers and are now thrown into their home environment with the expectation to continue their schooling. Meanwhile, their new \u201cteachers\u201d are juggling at least 2, if not more, jobs and \u201cclassrooms\u201d- with very little training or notice. Yikes! Of course the kids are more dysregulated- and very likely, we are, too! There\u2019s a whole lot of crazy going on right now! Here\u2019s the double whammy- because of reciprocal regulation, our children pick up on our own dysregulated states (anxiety, anyone?) and mirror them, which in turn, increases our frustration and anxiety and so on and so on… It is imperative to understand that if we want to help get our children\u2019s behavior under better control, we need to do so, too. (Cue the self-care reminder). So, let\u2019s start there. How do we practice self-regulation? Heck, let\u2019s be masters of efficiency and work on our own and our child\u2019s self-regulation! Here are some tried and true tricks of the trade (with some nerdy neuroscience thrown in for fun).
\nDeep breathing- it sounds clich\u00e9, but it\u2019s true. Deep diaphragmatic breaths stimulate the vagus nerve which ends in the insular cortex (which is activated during sensory perception, emotional regulation, and executive functioning). Teach your child to breathe in through their nose slowly (4-6 counts), then out through their mouth slowly, like they\u2019re blowing through a tiny straw (another 4-6 counts). 5 good breaths and you should both be feeling more regulated.
\nYoga- another great activity to share with your kids- and reap the benefits as well. There are tons of free videos and apps that walk you through basic yoga moves, suitable for kids and bodies of all abilities.
\n5-4-3-2-1- Teach your child this quick mindfulness activity. Have them come up with 5 things they can see, 4 things they can hear, 3 things they can touch, 2 things they can smell (or enjoy the smell of and have them imagine them), and 1 thing they can taste (or enjoy the taste of and have them imagine it).
\nPrint out some mandala coloring sheets or age-appropriate mazes and practice the art of focusing attention on a task. Don\u2019t forget to post your artwork on the fridge!
\nTake a Break- Find a special sound\/ alarm\/chime etc. and have your child \u201cfreeze\u201d when they hear the sound. They should find a comfortable position, close their eyes and just relax for 2 minutes. Try this a few times per day to give their brains a break (this is a nice one for us, too)!
\nCardio time- depending on their age\/ abilities, run around the block (or the house) as fast as you can. If it\u2019s yucky outside, do jumping jacks, burpees, or run up and down the stairs for a few minutes. Time them, make it a game (or a contest).
\nImprove emotional awareness. Sit with your child and watch their favorite show for an episode. Pause and ask what the characters might be thinking and feeling in different situations. This builds emotional awareness and social perception- and don\u2019t underestimate how important it is for your child to share their favorite things with you (even if it\u2019s super annoying).
\nCreate a safe place, fort, or hidey-hole for your child to escape to when they are overstimulated or just need a break. This can be a blanket over a couple of chairs, a closet, or corner. Have something soft and cuddly to sit\/ lay on and some sensory toys (fidgets, putty, music, wiggle cushion etc.)
\nStop and hydrate- drink some water! Frequently dysregulation can be caused or exacerbated by dehydration.
\nDance party- Crank up some music and go nuts! Dance with your child- try to get them to engage both sides of their body, cross their arms, jump up and down, spin etc. When the music stops, they freeze- and when it picks back up again- dance on!!!<\/p>\n
**A note- Always praise your child for the effort they put into a process and not for the outcome. We want to emphasize that success comes from trying not from results.<\/p>\n
Stay home, stay well,
\nDr. L<\/p>\n
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