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The Relationship Between Perfectionism and Procrastination\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>

by Tabitha Guillaume<\/a><\/p>

Being happy doesn\u2019t mean that everything is perfect.\u00a0 It means that you\u2019ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.\u201d -Gerard Way\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>

It\u2019s one thing to be aware that you align with perfectionistic tendencies, yet it\u2019s another to realize how it\u2019s playing into your overall mental health.\u00a0 The thing is perfectionism doesn\u2019t exist solely by itself, it\u2019s actually in a relationship with the behavior of procrastination. They are two members of the same family and those who categorize themselves as overachievers have a hard time seeing the pattern.\u00a0 Often it leads to the belief that they are lazy.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>

Let\u2019s take a look at how they connect to each other.\u00a0 It starts out with throwing yourself into an idea, goal, or intention so much so that you are giving all your resources to completing it.\u00a0 The thought pattern surrounding this is \u201cit has to be done this way or not at all,\u201d hence that all or nothing thinking mentioned in the last article. So you continue to make progress, but it\u2019s still not what you want so the anxiety begins to build.\u00a0 Maybe you start to think \u201cwell if I just give more of myself to it, then I will succeed.\u201d\u00a0 You do just that, but by doing that it means you throw self-care to the side or start to disrespect your own personal boundaries.\u00a0 Cue the curtain to life, and now entering is the most emotionally and mentally draining sensation of them all: burnout.\u00a0 Burnout feels mentally and physically exhausting in all aspects and can at times lead to lower feelings, such as sadness and depression.\u00a0 I\u2019ve seen numerous clients get to this point trying to meet their expectations and they revert to procrastinating working on the idea\/goal since it\u2019s not going their specific way.\u00a0 As mentioned before, shame is part of this cycle and here\u2019s where it enters: the judgment phase.\u00a0 All those thoughts of \u201cI\u2019m not good enough, smart enough, or (insert word) enough\u201d begin to trigger feeling ashamed.\u00a0 The thought of \u201cI can\u2019t finish this\u201d can become all consuming for some, which leads them to abandon what they started altogether, therefore the cycle begins again with some other idea or intent.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>

So what do you do if you notice yourself stuck in this cycle?\u00a0 Look for the gray area and ask yourself \u201cWhat is good enough where I won\u2019t burn myself out?\u201d The middle ground can be a place we frequently skip over in our society because living in absolutes brings most people comfort.\u00a0 If good enough means bringing down your expectations and that feels uncomfortable, then you\u2019re probably doing something right.\u00a0 However if this feels too challenging, it could be helpful to seek out assistance from a professional where they can guide you through some of these changes at a slower pace.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>

Disclaimer: Connecting with some of these behaviors does not guarantee you are a perfectionist, nor does it provide you with an actual diagnosis of any kind.\u00a0 The list is here simply to promote awareness.\u00a0 If you are interested in exploring these behaviors and how they affect mental health, please feel free to reach out to a professional therapist.<\/p> <\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\t <\/div>\n\t \t<\/div>\n\t\t <\/div>\n\t \n\t<\/div>\n\t\n\t<\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The Relationship Between Perfectionism and Procrastination\u00a0by Tabitha GuillaumeBeing happy doesn\u2019t mean that everything is perfect.\u00a0 It means that you\u2019ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.\u201d -Gerard Way\u00a0It\u2019s one thing to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2974,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[22],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nThe Relationship Between Perfectionism and Procrastination\u00a0\u00a0 > Marvelous Minds<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/the-relationship-between-perfectionism-and-procrastination\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Relationship 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Guillaume<\/a><\/p><p><em><strong>Being happy doesn\u2019t mean that everything is perfect.\u00a0 It means that you\u2019ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.\u201d -Gerard Way\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p><p>It\u2019s one thing to be aware that you align with perfectionistic tendencies, yet it\u2019s another to realize how it\u2019s playing into your overall mental health.\u00a0 The thing is perfectionism doesn\u2019t exist solely by itself, it\u2019s actually in a relationship with the behavior of procrastination. They are two members of the same family and those who categorize themselves as overachievers have a hard time seeing the pattern.\u00a0 Often it leads to the belief that they are lazy.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p><p>Let\u2019s take a look at how they connect to each other.\u00a0 It starts out with throwing yourself into an idea, goal, or intention so much so that you are giving all your resources to completing it.\u00a0 The thought pattern surrounding this is \u201cit has to be done this way or not at all,\u201d hence that all or nothing thinking mentioned in the last article. So you continue to make progress, but it\u2019s still not what you want so the anxiety begins to build.\u00a0 Maybe you start to think \u201cwell if I just give more of myself to it, then I will succeed.\u201d\u00a0 You do just that, but by doing that it means you throw self-care to the side or start to disrespect your own personal boundaries.\u00a0 Cue the curtain to life, and now entering is the most emotionally and mentally draining sensation of them all: burnout.\u00a0 Burnout feels mentally and physically exhausting in all aspects and can at times lead to lower feelings, such as sadness and depression.\u00a0 I\u2019ve seen numerous clients get to this point trying to meet their expectations and they revert to procrastinating working on the idea\/goal since it\u2019s not going their specific way.\u00a0 As mentioned before, shame is part of this cycle and here\u2019s where it enters: the judgment phase.\u00a0 All those thoughts of \u201cI\u2019m not good enough, smart enough, or (insert word) enough\u201d begin to trigger feeling ashamed.\u00a0 The thought of \u201cI can\u2019t finish this\u201d can become all consuming for some, which leads them to abandon what they started altogether, therefore the cycle begins again with some other idea or intent.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p><p>So what do you do if you notice yourself stuck in this cycle?\u00a0 Look for the gray area and ask yourself \u201cWhat is good enough where I won\u2019t burn myself out?\u201d The middle ground can be a place we frequently skip over in our society because living in absolutes brings most people comfort.\u00a0 If good enough means bringing down your expectations and that feels uncomfortable, then you\u2019re probably doing something right.\u00a0 However if this feels too challenging, it could be helpful to seek out assistance from a professional where they can guide you through some of these changes at a slower pace.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p><p>Disclaimer: Connecting with some of these behaviors does not guarantee you are a perfectionist, nor does it provide you with an actual diagnosis of any kind.\u00a0 The list is here simply to promote awareness.\u00a0 If you are interested in exploring these behaviors and how they affect mental health, please feel free to reach out to a professional therapist.<\/p>","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2973"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2973"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2973\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2974"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2973"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2973"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marvelousminds.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2973"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}